To be fair, there’s not much that can’t be improved by the judicious use of ricrac.Submitted by @bluebirdluxe
To be fair, there’s not much that can’t be improved by the judicious use of ricrac.Submitted by @bluebirdluxe
Also microwave popcorn and milkybar yoghurts.
GPOY.
This happened to me just this morning.
Krave is really important to me.
I have to say I’m not a huge fan of Shakespeare’s Sister (not because I disagree with her views*, just because I’m rarely in the mood to read it) but I came across this and thought it was kind of too important not to post. This is a subject I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. I know a number of people who are very dear to me who have been raped or sexually abused and even though I’ve never gone through anything like that, the thought that these people, who I love, have hits me really hard. I mentioned this to a friend of mine when asking him to not make rape jokes around me, as I find them offensive, and he replied that his take on it was that ‘if you don’t laugh about it, you can’t deal with it’, and to carry on making them (in his defense, he did stop after the third time I asked). I’m not blaming this person at all, I just think that if more people stopped to think about whether or not their intent is always communicated, and the impact their words and actions can have if it’s not, then it would be much harder for those who aren’t being ‘humorous’ to justify their actions.
Sorry that wasn’t very articulate, I REALLY ought to be revising.
*Well, except her views about religion, and Christianity in particular. Yes, there are sexist and homophobic Christians, and those people are idiots, but it’s possible to be Christian (or in fact a member of pretty much any religion) and not be those things.
Congratulations to OpiumJonny on finishing his finals. Turns out my suspicions that he was not a student but rather a secret agent sent to spy on the ‘youth’ were entirely unfounded!
Scotland wins this week…
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2011/may/23/church-of-scotland-gay-lesbian-ministers
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2011/may/25/church-england-gay-clergymen-williams
Actually, I thought we’d all already agreed about this one but apparently not.
I’m a hetero-romantic asexual. I am not straight.
If I were straight, I would not have spent five years - a quarter of my life, at this point! - wondering what was wrong with me. I wouldn’t have had panic attacks when I tried to force myself to do things that would make me ‘normal’ in my friends…
I’m queer-spartacus, shitstorm on me!
No, I’m Queer Spartacus, shitstorm on me
I realise I could have made my position here a little more clear, so here’s precisely where I am. I’m attracted to both men and women but I don’t really like to say I’m bisexual because what I really mean is ‘I’m bisexual right now’. There have been times when I have only been attracted to men; there have been times, like now, when I’ve been equally attracted to men and women and there have been time (and before you ask, no, I’m not talking about ‘before I developed a sex-drive’, I’m talking about well after that) where the only thing I can match my experience to is what quirkysaur has described to me. I identify as queer simply because nothing else works.
Having said that, I’m currently in the only long-term, serious (open) relationship I’ve ever had, and ever expect to have and that is with a man. I have never experienced violence, have never been called derogatory slurs and can honestly say I have never felt oppressed because I’m well aware I have straight privilege coming out of a body part I won’t mention. No, perhaps I can’t explain my sexual orientation to my grandparents and have them understand and accept me, but neither can quirkysaur. No, perhaps I don’t feel like I fit the ‘heteroromantic, heterosexual’ norm but neither does quirkysaur.
I imagine I’m going to get a lot of comments saying ‘how can you say you’re bisexual now if you’re sometimes heterosexual/asexual/yadayadayada’. That’s fine. Whatever. All I can go on is my experience, and all I know is that the one time I have felt most marginalised, most broken, most like something awful is wrong with me is when my experiences have fit the ‘asexual’ label. Please don’t for a minute think that I’m belittling or denying to hideous crap that lots of homosexual and bisexual people often go through because I’m not. All I’m saying is that, if, as some commenters seem to say, you have to be a certain level of oppressed to be called ‘queer’, you have absolutely no right to tell this person that they do not reach that level of oppression when you have absolutely no knowledge of their life or experiences. Also, if you say you have to be a certain level of oppressed to be called ‘queer’, you’re an idiot.
Just two words to say, finally. One, anyone who knows quirkysaur knows that she is utterly awesome and doesn’t deserve one iota of this crap. Secondly, she won’t say this herself but I can - fuck you.
Still Queer Spartcus, shitstorm on me
